No Talking! Just Do it!

By Dr. Sheila Pope

One year ago, I moved into my first office. My friend Michelle and I celebrated. Now, I am working from my home office and shifting my visions and focus. My business address has changed and so have I. I am my brand; I do not have limits, except for those that exist in my mind. My faith in God has expanded and my focus on ways to generate revenue for others and my businesses have become more focused and strategic!

I am amazed at how much change has taken place since I took these photos a year ago! I am grateful for all of the support, lessons learned, and the mindset changes I have had in the two years since I have been a full-time entrepreneur. My clients have taught me so much about conducting business with integrity.

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Our Chats!

Thanks to State Representative Shawn Thierry, I realized I am a Community Leader. I never heard someone else address me in that term. I am normally called an educator. I have transitioned into another arena! I have served children, seniors, and community organizations in Sunnyside for four years. As a small business owner, Precinct 12 Chair in Brazoria County, and advocate, I have advocated for students at Worthing, TSU, Capella University, and I have advocated for senior citizens.

I have attended community meetings, political events and conventions (Democrat), graduations, served on Boards of outstanding nonprofits such as Smaart Incubator and Junior Achievers and Sunnyside Silver Hair Senior Group, Inc. I have served as a community partner with the Peoples United Summit and I founded the Boss Ladies Professional Network.

My latest transformation into a television producer of Conversations With Dr. Pope is the result of years of listening, watching, sharing, working with other people, and understanding there is a need to tell the stories of those no one else sees as valuable. I want people to see what I see as I do the work in the community.

From the time I launched into full-time entrepreneurship, I became a full-time community and business leader. It all happened while I was actively doing the work! Here is the shocking part, I never saw my evolution because I was living it not talking about it.

Taping the First Television Program!

By Sheila Pope

I am so grateful for all of the folks who stopped by to have a “Conversation with Dr. Pope”. I was honored to speak with:

HISD Board of Trustee Wanda Adams
State Representative Shawn Thierry
Judson Robinson, CEO of Houston Urban League, Bryan D. Tigner, Math Instructor, and PhD Candidate at TSU
Allen Provost Treasure at Peoples United Summit & Worthing Administration, Commissioner Rodney Ellis, Charioun Moore, Senior @Worthing Class 2019, Travon Marshall, Worthing Alumn 2018
Alexis Jordan , Worthing Alumn 2018,
Willard Franklin III CEO of Four Ws Fishing Team &Television host on Discover.

Thank you David JaniseDavid for the photo! I will update you on air dates on Houston MediaSource.

Conversations with Dr. Pope Next Episode

By Sheila Pope

I met with my next guests, Reginald Guillory and his wife Millie to plan the two-part series. During the first episode, we will discuss criminal justice reform, the re-entry process, and patterns of criminal behavior in families. I am the founder and CEO of The Next Move Re-entry Program 501c3 These issues are heart issues for me. I hope my work will shine a positive light on the experiences of ex-offenders and provide some resources for those in need of help.

During the second episode, we will meet and have a conversation with women who love and support ex-offenders. We will explore their choices to love ex-offenders and the cost they often pay to love their mates. More professional women are living with, married, it dating ex-offenders. We want to explore their rationale for taking the leap.

We hope both episodes of @Conversations with Dr. Pope will help our audience gain valuable information about the struggles and successes of ex-offenders and the women who love and support them.
If your company would like to sponsor the episodes, please contact us at: 832.633.8304

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The First Out of Two!

By Dr. Sheila Pope

Dissertation Approved!

One of the reasons I love my Dissertation Coaching Business is the clients. I look forward to getting their call and hearing them say their work was approved! I am happy to announce one of my clients is officially a Ph.D.! Their school approved their dissertation! I am grateful to have played a small role in their success! Pope’s Resource Center, LLC can help you too.

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Celebrate Your Hard Work

The Producer

By Dr. Sheila Pope

I took time from editing my client’s dissertations to learn how to become a Producer via Houston Media Source. I took the first step by completing the orientation. I plan to have my own series soon. During orientation, I met two new fierce Boss Ladies in the process! The two young ladies were: Spoken word artist, Ebony Rose and business owner Tiffany Nicole.

Tiffany was the tall, beautiful version of myself! While I am was telling her about the Boss Ladies, she was on her phone requesting to join the group.

Who are Boss Ladies? Boss Ladies are a group of female small business owners who share information about the challenges and the benefits of running a small business. We support and encourage each others.

During the touring part of the orientation, I kept saying to Ebony, “I know you”. I kept wondering where I had met Tiffany too. During our exchange, I immediately recognized, Ebony’s power and confidence. I listened while Tiffany praised Ebony’s talent. In Boss Ladies, we celebrate each other’s gifts, accomplishments, and events. Ebony did not boast about her poetry skills, but I could see she knew she was great! I told her to own it. I do not believe women should down play their talents.

I was so excited to see their hustle in the parking lot. They were lining up their sponsors to become producers and so was I. They were thinking and doing some next-level hustling! I was doing the same thing. We all were working on our plans.

Also, during the orientation, Tiffany asked about the Houston Media Source’s Radio Program. I plan to have a radio shows too. Both of them planned to use public access television to promote their talent and their businesses.

There are three main goals of Boss Ladies. We promote, support, and encourage female business owners. When I started Boss Ladies, I did not ask for any membership dues or charge advertising fees. However, this month we are changing. I want to grow the group and expand our activities.

Special moments like meeting Ebony Rose and Tiffany Nicole remind me of the reasons I created Boss Ladies. As a small business owner, I have experienced great highs and so serious lows. Yet I am moving forward because of encounters like this.

I had a serious business matter that was weighing heavily on my mind during orientation. While I was trying to figure out how I was going to raise money to keep my office space, thinking of ways to use television, and trying to decide if it was time to have a radio program, God was lining up my appointed time to meet two Boss Ladies like myself. I am looking forward to my new adventure in television production.


The Green Room

The Editing Room

Superwoman with Flaws

by Dr. Sheila Pope

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This week something happened to me and I cannot ignore it. I met a man with x-ray vision! Yes, that’s right Superwoman met Superman.  He used his x-ray vision to see straight through me! I was naked figuratively within two hours.  How does that happen? It happened while talking.

I was having a great conversation when boom out of nowhere his x-ray vision spotted my secret weapon, my strength. I was asked a simple question: Why are you not married? I was caught completely off guard. I laughed because I could only laugh. What do you do when someone touches on that secret question you had been asking yourself the Sunday before the phone call. As a matter of fact, I have been asking myself the question for a couple of years.

Not only did he ask the question, he gave me his answer to his question. He simply said, “You are a strong woman.” My reply, “How did you know that I was strong?” In that conversation, I was not spitting out my crazy rhetoric. I was not running a meeting. I was not saying, “I do not tolerate this or that”. I was just talking about something we both share a common interest. I was shocked that he knew my  KRYPTONITE. Yes, being a strong woman to some men is not appealing. They love your ability to get things done and to take charge, but they also want you to ALLOW them to be the man in a relationship and to respect them in their role.

He said he could hear my strength via my conversation. Then he asked another question that indicated he also had the ability to cut right through my stuff. He asked, “Can you take your cape off when you enter into a relationship with a man? cape off

At this point, I am rolling my eyes up and in my head and asking myself if I should I answer truthfully or tell him what I KNOW he wants to hear. I decided to shoot straight. My secret cover was blown. I said, “Yes! I can take my cape off when I hit the door.” What he did not know was my cape was barely hanging on my body. Being Superwoman, Bat Girl, and Wonder Woman is tiring! I am tired of blocking all of the unfair, disrespectful obstacles that come my way on a daily basis as a businesswoman, a mother, a single woman, a black woman, and as a friend. Some days I feel overwhelmed with fear and concern for my financial future. Sometimes I feel lonely.

I listen to folks in bad marriages and on some days I think at least you have someone. That thought flees quickly because I would rather be single than married and miserable. Then, I put my cape back on and get back on my grind and say to myself: Don’t Settle! There are days when I am wondering how am I going to meet my budget for the month and I ask myself where is the man who will rescue me? Then, I admit he does not exist; then, I put on my cape and carry on like business as usual.

The last thing he said floored me. He said, “You are the type of woman who will look at me when I say something you do not like and challenge me.” I laughed so hard at his summation of my behavior. He was RIGHT! I have had to really work hard for the last year to truly understand men MUST be treated with RESPECT and KINDNESS.  

I know how to respect men. I talk with men all the time. I am friends with several strong men, but I have not always treated the men I loved with the level of respect they deserve. I have not always allowed them to have the last word. I have wasted too much energy trying to tell a man he must respect me instead of quickly leaving him when he does not. I have stood up to controlling men and lost my control in the mist of the battle. I have used my strength to help build up my men, while they have spent too much time trying to figure how to decrease my strength.  When women spend too much time trying to please the wrong men, they lose respect for all men. My greatest downfall was partnering with men that needed my strength and utility to maintain, but they could not stand my inner strength. Free-spirited, strong women work best when they are given the ability to soar. We need our capes to soar!

It has taken me two years to get my Superwoman outfit on straight. I  understand the power that I have as a woman is not to have the last say, to defend myself at all cost, to run towards drama, to create discontent in my home, and to make a man feel like he is the “woman” in a relationship.  My mission in life as Superwoman with flaws is to ask more questions while getting to know a man. If he has flaws that I cannot live with, then I should maintain the friendship and immediately disengage a relationship.  When I feel the need to say something hurtful, shut my mouth and walk or run away if necessary. I must maintain PEACE in all my relationship. Finally, as Superwoman carrying my cape with flaws, I can be VULNERABLE anytime and anywhere.

Like most superheroes, I have secret powers too. I am using my wisdom, my critical thinking skills, my passion, my kindness to build men up and to encourage them. I too can see men’s strengths and some of their weaknesses. I have decided to accept them for who they say they are. I am being honest and I am listening. I am on a mission to teach other Superwomen to listen to men when they talk to us about us. I am not ashamed to say, I needed to work on me before getting married. I have embraced the fact that not all men can handle a strong woman. I am strong and that will not change. However, I can take my cape off and gladly let a man step up and make decisions. I will always use my influence to shape those decisions.  I gladly welcome the man who can see my strength, see my beauty, respect my intelligence, and recognize my flaws, and still build and love me. I am rare individual: I am Superwoman with flaws.

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Time is Up!

by Dr. Sheila Pope

I love Netflix’s documentaries on the fashion world. I love to see how someone becomes the “it” of the fashion world. I love to see the mental struggles it takes for the fashion designers to rise above the competition to become super human. One day, I ran across

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Netflix’s “Inside British Vogue” and found it to be very interesting because of the editor-in-chiefs’ longevity at British Vogue. At the time of the documentary, Alexandra Shulman had been the editor-in-chief for 25 years. Alexandra relied on the magazine’s fashion director, Lucinda Chambers to help her manage Vogue. Lucinda Chambers had been at the British Vogue for 31 years at the time of filming. Alexandra and Lucinda’s longevity at a company is almost unheard of in any industry. I love learning from powerful women in any industry. However, I think I respect female CEOs in fashion industry because their creations impact people’s choices in their style and the way they present themselves to the world.

The filmaker, Richard Macer, followed the Editor-in-chief, Alexandra Shulman, and her staff around for nine months. During the filming, the cameras captured how several powerful women in the fashion industry made things happen. More important, they captured how the elite and those traveling in the circles of the elite behaved. While interviewing Lucinda Chambers about her time at the magazine, Lucinda’s comments jarred me. First, she said a few negative, but honest, things about the fashion industry.

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Lucinda Chambers, former fashion director of British Vogue.

Lucinda Chambers admitted people did not need all of the stuff the fashion industry pushed on consumers. She explained how she would never be able to leave the magazine on her own. She said someone would have to let her go because she was unable to make the choice herself. Finally, in a bold statement, she clarified that she knew one day someone would tell her that her time was up.

After watching the documentary, I decided to follow Alexandra Shulman on Instagram. I discovered she had been replaced after 25 years by Edward Enninful. Then, I read

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Times Running Out!

Lucinda Chambers was fired in one conversation that took less than three minutess. “A month and a half ago I was fired from Vogue,” she says. “It took them three minutes to do it. I didn’t leave. I was fired” (Young, 2017).

Lucinda Chambers was furious about the way the she was told her time was up. She spoke out in the media and was pressured to recant her story about the firing. After 36 years at company, her career ended in three minutes! It is sad, but it does not take long to end someone else’s career. Lucinda Chambers knew the day would come when she would be shown the door, but when it came she was not ready. She was furious. To be honest, I was perplexed at her response. Was she angry over how it was done or was she angry that it was done? She admitted on camera that she had stayed past her time. Sometimes leaders give too much of their personal and professional lives to other peoples’ company.

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Everyone Knows Your Business

Moreover, I was shocked that Mrs. Chambers thought no one from upper management was aware she was going to be fired. After working with everyone so closely, maybe she felt someone in her circle would have given her a heads up. I have found people will always protect their own livelyhood first. After working in fashion for 31 years, you would think she would have known this too.

I wrote about Lucinda Chambers because she is a woman that I felt so many emotions about regarding business. I respected her dedication to British Vogue, but I questioned if I could give 31 years of my life to someone else’s vision, someone else’s company; I realized I could not do it today. However, 10 years ago, I would have considered retiring from a school district. I understand the power that comes from working for a company like Vogue. I can understand Lucinda Chambers’ desire to stay on well past her time. I understand how easy it is to think your loyality equates to earning the company’s loyality. After reading the article and watching the documentary, I really understand that when you know your time is up, you need to leave before they ask you.

Reference
, S. “Fired British Vogue fashion director slams magazine she worked at for 3 decades, says she hasn’t ‘read Vogue in years” July 4, 2017.