No Talking! Just Do it!

By Dr. Sheila Pope

One year ago, I moved into my first office. My friend Michelle and I celebrated. Now, I am working from my home office and shifting my visions and focus. My business address has changed and so have I. I am my brand; I do not have limits, except for those that exist in my mind. My faith in God has expanded and my focus on ways to generate revenue for others and my businesses have become more focused and strategic!

I am amazed at how much change has taken place since I took these photos a year ago! I am grateful for all of the support, lessons learned, and the mindset changes I have had in the two years since I have been a full-time entrepreneur. My clients have taught me so much about conducting business with integrity.

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Our Chats!

Thanks to State Representative Shawn Thierry, I realized I am a Community Leader. I never heard someone else address me in that term. I am normally called an educator. I have transitioned into another arena! I have served children, seniors, and community organizations in Sunnyside for four years. As a small business owner, Precinct 12 Chair in Brazoria County, and advocate, I have advocated for students at Worthing, TSU, Capella University, and I have advocated for senior citizens.

I have attended community meetings, political events and conventions (Democrat), graduations, served on Boards of outstanding nonprofits such as Smaart Incubator and Junior Achievers and Sunnyside Silver Hair Senior Group, Inc. I have served as a community partner with the Peoples United Summit and I founded the Boss Ladies Professional Network.

My latest transformation into a television producer of Conversations With Dr. Pope is the result of years of listening, watching, sharing, working with other people, and understanding there is a need to tell the stories of those no one else sees as valuable. I want people to see what I see as I do the work in the community.

From the time I launched into full-time entrepreneurship, I became a full-time community and business leader. It all happened while I was actively doing the work! Here is the shocking part, I never saw my evolution because I was living it not talking about it.

Another Successful Dissertation Client!

By Dr. Sheila Pope

My SECOND dissertation client called me to share her exciting news: her dissertation was approved by her committee and it has been sent to her school for final approval!

I have coached my client through stressful times and edited her work for the last year. I tell my clients, “I am here until the end”. Sometimes it takes a while for the end to arrive. I had the honor to edit her proposal, her ethics paper, her Capstone project, and her final Capstone Report!

Trust is Required
I am glad my client trusted me to help her accomplish her goal. She was not always happy with my feedback, but she listened and respected my knowledge of Capella’s process. We spent a great deal of time via the phone and I will miss her, but I look forward to working with her in other professional endeavors.

Capella’s Capstone Project
Capella University has cut down the time it takes to earn a doctorate in Education. My client contracted my services in September 2017 when she was ready to write. I am proud of her! I have TWO clients preparing to defend this month!

Two Opening!
I have openings for two more Dissertation Clients. I can only take a couple at a time. I stay until the end. I provide clients with several opportunities to talk with me via phone and email. I thoroughly edit and return work with feedback to help clients secure their mentor’s approval. I coach clients through the creative process and through conquering milestones. I celebrate their success like it was my own. I love this part of coaching. Getting the phone call makes my day!

Superwoman with Flaws

by Dr. Sheila Pope

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This week something happened to me and I cannot ignore it. I met a man with x-ray vision! Yes, that’s right Superwoman met Superman.  He used his x-ray vision to see straight through me! I was naked figuratively within two hours.  How does that happen? It happened while talking.

I was having a great conversation when boom out of nowhere his x-ray vision spotted my secret weapon, my strength. I was asked a simple question: Why are you not married? I was caught completely off guard. I laughed because I could only laugh. What do you do when someone touches on that secret question you had been asking yourself the Sunday before the phone call. As a matter of fact, I have been asking myself the question for a couple of years.

Not only did he ask the question, he gave me his answer to his question. He simply said, “You are a strong woman.” My reply, “How did you know that I was strong?” In that conversation, I was not spitting out my crazy rhetoric. I was not running a meeting. I was not saying, “I do not tolerate this or that”. I was just talking about something we both share a common interest. I was shocked that he knew my  KRYPTONITE. Yes, being a strong woman to some men is not appealing. They love your ability to get things done and to take charge, but they also want you to ALLOW them to be the man in a relationship and to respect them in their role.

He said he could hear my strength via my conversation. Then he asked another question that indicated he also had the ability to cut right through my stuff. He asked, “Can you take your cape off when you enter into a relationship with a man? cape off

At this point, I am rolling my eyes up and in my head and asking myself if I should I answer truthfully or tell him what I KNOW he wants to hear. I decided to shoot straight. My secret cover was blown. I said, “Yes! I can take my cape off when I hit the door.” What he did not know was my cape was barely hanging on my body. Being Superwoman, Bat Girl, and Wonder Woman is tiring! I am tired of blocking all of the unfair, disrespectful obstacles that come my way on a daily basis as a businesswoman, a mother, a single woman, a black woman, and as a friend. Some days I feel overwhelmed with fear and concern for my financial future. Sometimes I feel lonely.

I listen to folks in bad marriages and on some days I think at least you have someone. That thought flees quickly because I would rather be single than married and miserable. Then, I put my cape back on and get back on my grind and say to myself: Don’t Settle! There are days when I am wondering how am I going to meet my budget for the month and I ask myself where is the man who will rescue me? Then, I admit he does not exist; then, I put on my cape and carry on like business as usual.

The last thing he said floored me. He said, “You are the type of woman who will look at me when I say something you do not like and challenge me.” I laughed so hard at his summation of my behavior. He was RIGHT! I have had to really work hard for the last year to truly understand men MUST be treated with RESPECT and KINDNESS.  

I know how to respect men. I talk with men all the time. I am friends with several strong men, but I have not always treated the men I loved with the level of respect they deserve. I have not always allowed them to have the last word. I have wasted too much energy trying to tell a man he must respect me instead of quickly leaving him when he does not. I have stood up to controlling men and lost my control in the mist of the battle. I have used my strength to help build up my men, while they have spent too much time trying to figure how to decrease my strength.  When women spend too much time trying to please the wrong men, they lose respect for all men. My greatest downfall was partnering with men that needed my strength and utility to maintain, but they could not stand my inner strength. Free-spirited, strong women work best when they are given the ability to soar. We need our capes to soar!

It has taken me two years to get my Superwoman outfit on straight. I  understand the power that I have as a woman is not to have the last say, to defend myself at all cost, to run towards drama, to create discontent in my home, and to make a man feel like he is the “woman” in a relationship.  My mission in life as Superwoman with flaws is to ask more questions while getting to know a man. If he has flaws that I cannot live with, then I should maintain the friendship and immediately disengage a relationship.  When I feel the need to say something hurtful, shut my mouth and walk or run away if necessary. I must maintain PEACE in all my relationship. Finally, as Superwoman carrying my cape with flaws, I can be VULNERABLE anytime and anywhere.

Like most superheroes, I have secret powers too. I am using my wisdom, my critical thinking skills, my passion, my kindness to build men up and to encourage them. I too can see men’s strengths and some of their weaknesses. I have decided to accept them for who they say they are. I am being honest and I am listening. I am on a mission to teach other Superwomen to listen to men when they talk to us about us. I am not ashamed to say, I needed to work on me before getting married. I have embraced the fact that not all men can handle a strong woman. I am strong and that will not change. However, I can take my cape off and gladly let a man step up and make decisions. I will always use my influence to shape those decisions.  I gladly welcome the man who can see my strength, see my beauty, respect my intelligence, and recognize my flaws, and still build and love me. I am rare individual: I am Superwoman with flaws.

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